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Silent Presence is a podcast where people share personal stories of addiction, mental health, grief, hope and their journey moving forward.

Bad Widow, Alison Pena, Talks About Overcoming Grief and Strategies for Living Powerfully

April 28, 2020

Alison Pena, an international speaker, life legacy consultant, author of "Grief, Navigating the 3 levels of loss" and creator of "The Affluence Code," shares her insights, experiences and strategies for living powerfully. Alison was married to her husband David for 25 years. When he was diagnosed with Stage 4 pancreatic cancer and was given only a short time to live, they decided to live fully every minute of every day. 

Preparing for loss like this was an impossible thing to do. Becoming a widow only led Alison to a loss of energy, memory and drowning in a seemingly endless landscape of grief and despair. Despite her many challenges, Alison continued to look for and find solutions. She took baby steps to expand her capacity proactively and was able to get back on her feet again through writing, blogging and speaking engagements. Throughout this podcast, Alison will share her insights, experiences and strategies for living powerfully. 

Alison Pena can be reached at https://badwidow.com/ where you can receive 1 on 1 Bad Widow consulting and take a Free Living (Really Living) After Loss Assessment and learn where you stand on healing from within, reinventing yourself and rebuilding your supportive community now.

  • 01:28 – Alison discusses the loss of her former husband, David, after 25 years of marriage
  • 03:02 – Fact: You will lose someone in your life and you will eventually pass away
  • 04:40 – Deciding to live the remainder of our lives to the fullest
  • 06:37 – Living Fearlessly and living life despite the inevitable. Not just a widow or a caregiver
  • 08:04 – You don’t know what you can handle. The hospital was not an option. Home was the option for the remaining days
  • 09:09 – Dealing with loss. Life is short, life is precious. Live like today is the last
  • 12:20 – Loss during the second year
  • 14:03 – Three levels of loss and the best ways to navigate through them
  • 18:50 – People either step up, step back or step out
  • 21:00 – People need direction in how to deal with other’s grief. They need to be trained
  • 24:05 – Being clear with others about your needs and wants for dealing with grief
  • 29:33 – Compartmentalizing and not dealing with the grief
  • 31:39 – Rebuilding your community of people in your life
  • 33:30 – My loss is worse than your loss. Your loss is worse than mine
  • 36:15 – Being that Silent Presence. The ripple effect and paying it forward
  • 37:46 – Alison Pena future books, presentations and speaking engagements

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Intro/Outro music courtesy of Purple Planet Music (Dreamcatcher)